Is Chivalry Dead?

On the news the other day on CNBC (go the Foxtel at work!) they ran this acted scenario in one of the local parks (middle of the day) where a man was shouting and pushing his girlfriend around. Then they filmed passer-by's reactions to the scene, and what people would do. They found out, compared to men, double the number of women stopped to tell the boyfriend to back off.

This is ordinary! I would hope that as a male, I would be willing to step up in these situations.

I hate to admit it, but I did watch one guy get beaten up by three other guys outside a dance party once. In those cases, your body just freezes. And you think too much, like "what if the other guy was getting beaten up cause he was beating up someone prior?". And another thought that comes through, "I don't want to get caught up with this stuff". Looking back, I'm still not sure if I did the right thing.

I would say, though, with a degree of confidence, that I would come in to defend my friends and and females. Lucky my friends don't get in fights all the time!

Damn! three cheap calls already:

hey i saw that too. pretty freaky stuff
sadly, it was also emphasised that due to legal issues nowadays, people are more scared to intervene.
i hope that my friends would help me if a guy was hurting me. i hope that my friends would intervene if one of their friends was being hurt. No i dont condone fighting, but if someones getting hurt, you will soon know who your friends are..
addy - 03 October '05 - 14:18

Mate don't ever doubt the Doraemon incident mate, not good to step into that one. I'll back you :)
PeeDz - 03 October '05 - 20:22

legal issues, as well as the chance that you get your head smacked in. There is more chance of the guy turning on you if you're a guy, rather than a girl. No way I'm stepping in to protect a girl from her boyfriend. Why the fuck is she going out with an abusive boyfriend?

RC
randomcow - 09 October '05 - 05:33

Search Strings

I can't remember if I've written about this, but I checked my search logs (yes, it's quite entertaining :)), and I have found that all the searches that rate on my site are pr0n searches.

It turns out that I am on the first page for searches on "girls going down on each other" as well as "four girls kissing". Not to be outdone, I'm providing for the 'ghey' community with "best looking guy in the world" (though not on page 1 of the results). People actually put these things in for searches?? And people actually click through to my site? This site isn't even trying to be hardcore!

To all your pr0n readers out there. Welcome!
Edit 22 May 07: Those search strings aren't up to date anymore :(

Damn! two cheap calls already:

me too! for some reason my site always comes up for searches where the words wild girls, petite asian girls, strippers etc etc!! and for awhile search strings for "xbox vs the girlfriend" or "halo vs the girlfriend" was a very hot topic leading to my site...it made me feel a bit better that it wasn't just me out there!!
mushiejc (link) - 16 September '05 - 15:25

Someone say pr0n? :)

Ohyeah... its how I ended up here...

"azn boy love"
PeeDz - 16 September '05 - 20:02

Moving On

Today's my last day out at Ropes Crossing (or St Marys), and I'll be heading back to the big smoke for some IT project management work.
What have I learnt?
1. That on-site work is totally different to working at Head Office. Things like internet connectivity are good most the time, but shocking other times. There is a sense of disconnect with the main office (especially with the remoteness of this site), and also a sense of tribalness. The people here are wonderful, and quite willing to help out and lend assistance to each other. Interruptions happen a lot often, mostly because everyone knows everyone else.

2. DLL is a company at a cross-roads. It's finding its identity through a myriad of organisational structures, and there is no lockdown operational processes that you find at a more mature company, which leads to communication problems between the different "disciplines" of the project. It is still growing, but needs to organise that growth and get everyone aligned to the same goals to maximise its effectiveness and value.

3. I still like IT. Marketing is fun, and urban communities I have learnt all sorts of wonderful information from, but the sign-offs that marketing requires and the sometimes ambivalent nature of the urban communities job detract from the glamour. I see these experiences as additions to the core skill of project management, and when talking to business people, having had business experience provides that little bit more street cred.
What of sales? Sales was fun, and I liked talking to people. As above, an integration of sales into an IT role is something to think about. I think the hours or the sales staff (no weekends off for the whole year) and the location of the job are not really what I wanted.

So back to Crows Nest for me. At last I can stop living out of a bag!

Only one cheap call:

As long as you remember all your sales lines... life is sales :) They'll serve you well.

Now, about updating your crappy Honda... would you like to come in Saturday or Sunday? :P
PeeDz - 16 September '05 - 20:04

My Sassy Girl

I am many years too late for this movie, but I don't get out much.
The bottom line for this movie is that persistence pays off in the end. And that Korean guys get some major thumbing! :)

I really did enjoy the movie, from the "school uniform" dance outing, to the quasi-vomiting face of the guy, to the part where he tries to chat up the girl of his dreams ("'Hey baby...your English is so good!'"), the movie had lots of quality scenes, and tied up the ends quite well.
It was sappy, but in a feel good way, and that "I Believe" song is the bomb! Can someone sing that at our next Karaoke?

The only question is why did the aunt want to introduce to the girl a guy that looks like her dead boyfriend? I find that a bit strange. Wouldn't you want to get over it by at the very least meeting people that don't look the same??

Damn! seven cheap calls already:

geez, you ARE living in a time capsule :P
That movie is the reason im soo into korean flicks. Although im finding a very strange trend that korean gals are PSYCHO and super demanding. Makes us other gals look like angels :P ding! *halo lights up over addy's head*
other cool korean flicks - My tutor friend and the series Full House.
addy - 04 September '05 - 06:46

hey kc, i know how you feel about scary movies, but how do you feel about violence? *grin* watch "oldboy" - it'll leave you disturbed for awhile :P and stay away from "save the green planet"...
reenie - 04 September '05 - 09:15

Violence not too bad, but from what you are saying I assume those movies are of the excessive category?
JookBoy (link) - 05 September '05 - 05:13

"oldboy" is a tad on the violent side, a tad on the squeamish side, and deep into the disturbed side. watch it! but you might look at beck differently by the end of it :P "save the green planet" is just insane. not worth watching...
reenie - 05 September '05 - 22:15

i recently (and regrettably) stayed up to watch some korean movie on sbs (i did cop a bit of titty for my effort) which was about this couple who make a road trip and as a gesture of goodwill, give this hitchhiking dude a lift. the ungrateful hiker refuses to leave them alone and at one point breaks into their hotel room from memory. if u think that's bad enuff, by the end of it, he kidnaps the woman and when the husband hacks into him a thousand and twelve times, he's still alive. i seem to recall something about a cattle prod up where the sun don't shine, or maybe that was another sbs classic. just when it was REALLY time to sleep the pyscho is hospitalised and the couple decide to exercise one of their lives by visiting him, at which point he wakes up and it starts all over again. ultimately both mr. brain tumours and wife die and said husband becomes a nutter himself -- the final scene being him being discharged from a mental unit and hitchhiking with another unsuspecting korean couple.....

moral of the story? korean pron just ain't worth it.
ken p - 06 September '05 - 14:36

That is some weird shit....what does "exercise one of their lives" mean? Is that an option to bank in?
JookBoy (link) - 11 September '05 - 13:50

My Sassy Girl taught me a lot about how to get Korean girls. I remember this one date, I went in for the kiss TEN TIMES. Every time I was met with a wall of tightly-closed lip. Then finally on the tenth time her lips softened ever so slightly. That's when I knew she was mine. Bear in mind that this girl had told me throughout the date that she wasn't interested in me at all because I wasn't Korean, that she could only have feelings for Korean guys, that she was saving herself for her future husband (who was to be, you guessed it, Korean), and that she wasn't interested in me at all because I had a playboy aura,...

Though I wouldn't go so far as to say that persistence "pays off" when it comes to Korean girls. Rather that it's a necessary part of the dating process, to push yourself past what would normally be "confortable" by Western dating standards. So make sure the girl you are trying to get is worth it!

(and as a general rule which applies to all women, alcohol helps).

Anyway, most of you girls are getting on in years, so you're probably old enough to just on the Yon-sama wagon, part of the mythical Korean Boom in Japan at the moment. Read here for details:

http://www.occidentalism.org/?p=61

Anyway, I'm no specialist by any means. We need to get the full details from Richard S. :)

RC
randomcow (email) (link) - 26 September '05 - 08:25