I've Been Labelled

I've been enjoying the sunshine and relaxation of Port Stephens, during the long weekend just past. Just chillin out at the house, walking to the beach, watching more Virtua Tennis action (I brought the PS2 up), it's what these coast holidays are all about. It's a great opportunity to catch up with friends, and "chew that fat", as it were.

The topic of conversation always swings into relationships, and since it's always the single people that have the more interesting stories, I always get picked out :). It's not like I have that much to hide, and in some cases, I am sure some of my friends are living vicariously through me hehe.

So I told some of my more entertaining woes of the past year, and was subsequently labelled a "serial liker". I thought that phrase was pretty funny! Upon subsequent thought, it's probably quite true.

• I do not believe that there are times when people are not looking for potential.
• I think, everytime you meet someone, there exists a decision making process where you make a call (maybe or no) for that person's potential. Why maybe? Because you can never tell how good it is upon an initial meeting, yeah?
• Hence there are always people of interest, and hence stories of interest, and people that I "like".

The reason for the quotation marks is maybe it's not an established like. It's something that's could be there, but you're holding back a bit because you don't really know how much of a potential that person really is.
So I really could just be a "serial mayber" :)
Lack of committment? Perhaps. Not that many that really stir the emotions? More likely.

I think it takes a lot for me to really like someone. It just always seems that they do not recipricate the same feelings...don't you hate it when they describe their ideal partner, and you fit every criteria bar the most important one ie that the partner cannot be you?

Damn! eleven cheap calls already:

I think the "like" doesn't necessarily mean "leads to love" but more "enjoy spending time with this person, get along with this person". In this case, yes, there's always the question, will i enjoy spending time with them? should i put in the effort to start a friendship with them?
Ding! (email) - 13 October '03 - 16:54

I think I am a serial-'get-treated-like-a-manho'-er. I am beginning to doubt if there are any real nice women left.
Dre - 13 October '03 - 22:45

point 2 has truth...best thing about not having too high expectations about these things is that you've got a free option to reverse the call if its not all good. gotta try, cos u never know 'til u give it a go...right?
its definitely vicarious...but not thru u mate! working up a new collection of stories to share at xmas
bjee - 20 October '03 - 18:18

Hmm..true true, true true. I think you've hit the nail on the head there JookBoy.

BTW, where ARE you? Livin' it up over thurrrrr in Canada? :P
bOGi - 21 October '03 - 21:57

Ding: If you put the effort in to start the friendship, when do you make the call that you want it to be on?

Dre: Ho'ing it up is your specialty mate :P

bjee: Haha, can't wait! I've heard Honkers isn't the hotbed that it once was? :)

bOGi: I was, but back in the west syyyyyiiide in LA now. I saw Ingelwood on the map!
JookBoy - 24 October '03 - 04:50

The call can be made whenever... it all depends on whether you feel something can work
Ding! - 24 October '03 - 16:35

ingleWOOOOOD!!!!
Dre - 25 October '03 - 13:54

damn right mate took the free option to reverse the call, as they say. Same old answer "why you got to go and pull out all this serious shiat?" :) later....

but singas continuing to treat me well, of sorts
bjee - 28 October '03 - 13:07

Dude, maybe you just promote this type of "let's get serious" attitude from the ladies.
More "I'm only down for sum of that" calls :)
JookBoy - 06 November '03 - 19:11

There are stages of like and often the development of a relationship (or divolution dare I say) is just a process of elimination - until you reach critical mass and things breaks up.

Inversely, I hold out the ideal that things can evolve to the point where you decide, hey I want to spend the rest of my life with this person.

I'll tell you if that ever happens.
-Stephen- (email)
-Stephen- - 07 November '03 - 23:15